As a professional matchmaker I would be rich if I had a £ for every time I hear this...Let me elaborate, on the tall dark and handsome. I am looking for a guy who is 6 foot tall (rule out 50% of your potential dates now). I like a big shouldered - rugby type (ok now rule out another 40% as there aren't many rugby player types around - not that are single anyway! And I want them to make me laugh, so a sense of humour is a must have. Oooo and they must be physically fit and active and like dogs and shopping.... Now we are down to just 1% of guys!
But it's not just the ladies - guys you are just as fussy! I want a slim (there goes 50%!) Long hair - that's another % gone, fit and active...like football....You get the idea.
The trouble is we have become use to App Dating, where you pop in your requirements and bingo up come all these potential matches, it's like being a kid in a sweet shop. But too many sweets is not always a good thing!
Now just imagine, you go to a friends BBQ and meet the most amazing person, they are charming, charismatic, funny, everything you could wish for and more! You just click and chat away, it appears they are single and your getting rather excited....but at the end of the evening they mention the date they have coming up with another of your host's friends. Your crushed and wonder why on earth your friend did not think of you. You seek your friend out and ask the question - Why did you not think of me, he/she is just my type! They reply - but you have told me soooo often that you only want to date a big guy with broad shoulders :( (or you told me you wanted a size 10 lady with no commitments and she is a 12 and has a dog....)
Now lets get serious, what will make you happy? Is it someone who is kind, caring and compassionate? Someone honest and trustworthy? Someone who you have a lot in common with and who treats you with good manners and respect? Sure you need to find them attractive, but surely what a persons values are and how they treat you are more important. Looks fade. As we get older our bodies change and can start to let us down, do you want the relationship your in to be a solid one based on mutual respect and honest or a shallow one based on looks and lust? Have you ever been in someone's company and found that they really grow on you, the more time you spend with them the nicer they appear? How will you know someone's qualities if you just dismiss them because they are not a size 10 or over 6 foot.
Who are you missing out on?
Next time lets look at the - "I like the bad boys" - Ladies I know some of you are guilty of this one!
Can't wait to read the next one.